UNCLE TY-TY
We should be sharing the great bounty life has provided us, especially since it came in part from our working together as a team for ten years; and then at least something is to be said for the fact that I made you insanely wealthy on the heels of your choosing to accuse me of cheating you "out of money".
Pretending it didn't happen is something much worse than pathetic, it is psychotic, weird, profoundly lame and weak too... but that is just to begin to describe it really. This is the part where you take these words and pretend they are excuse enough to justify your =past= behavior, but that is just more of the very same thing. A world where you are always right, justified and unaccountable: an impossible secret world and a giant lie you have to tell yourself over and over again.
CONTACT: A few seconds
of a silence that began
nearly a decade ago...
PLAY
SETI:
"The Search for
Tyler's Integrity"
(Brief Video)
…as we look through old pictures, seeing many of Tyler and Dara…
“…I know Dara, it is strange, and you guys need to know that, and that I am so sorry, …We can even imagine it might be hard for you to even believe [Tyler’s choice]… but listen, it is really important that you guys understand, Tyler only decided he didn't like me, and did not want to be my brother, it was never about you, or you Cokie, not even a tiny bit.
Mom and I remember those days, very well... you saw your “Uncle Tyler” almost every day —Dara remembers some of those, …she actually took what were basically her first few steps in front of him when we were all sitting on the couch one day at his house…
…Dara then promptly took a vacation from walking for about six or maybe eight weeks, you wanted to do it 'great' or not do it at all (we all thought)..."
The truth is we can only guess... and it is ultimately pointless as to whether there ever was a “real Uncle Ty Ty" —he either had some really big change in his life that we may never understand, or (less likely), but he doesn’t act like an Uncle anymore only because it would mean having to be my brother... and he doesn't like your Daddy, sometimes I think he never did, even when we were very young.
....No, we really, truly don't know why, there is no reason we know of, I promise. He did say once that he thought we took a lot more money from Speakeasy than he received and that it was unfair, but that was years later and frankly very hard to believe he felt that way honestly. It seemed more like a way to “cover his tracks” in front of our Dad, after years of treating us all like we weren’t here at all.
....Yep, we were both real Uncles to Kitt and Kayla, and we saw them several times a year, more often when we were still young living in Montana and in school here.
....I don't know, but look, he just doesn't "want to" even be a Brother to me, not even if we never see each other… No one seems to know why, but if you hear that he has been saying bad things about us, of course don't believe it and talk to us about it right away.
He went around saying some bad things about me in particular for several years around the Valley, again we don’t really understand the first thing about “why” when it comes to Tyler.
It comes down to the fact that he wants and really needs those kinds of things to be true, even if they are not. It is complicated, but maybe it is so he can feel good about himself. No one knows, but what we do know is that apparently no one has been able to help him realize how wrong it is... or how much he is missing with you two.
I'm sorry... but girls, you need to know it isn't about you guys at all, it is only because he has (perhaps always) held a hate and resentment toward me, your Dad, for things he made up and knows I didn't do.
Coco, I know it seems impossible and wrong that you don't have an Uncle Tyler... Some day you will understand it, maybe even more than your Dad does! ...or maybe you and I will never fully accept it or think that it is "OK".
I can neither explain it, believe it or accept it, except that in a sense I have to, because he has killed me in his mind, and I no longer live according to his special new world that he is so often expressing to everyone as so wonderful... So I guess I must have ruined a lot for him just "by being".
You see, Ty Ty decided that he would be happier without me around, or any of us I guess... but it is about me, I am sure of that. The hard part for your Dad is that he has been for some reason, telling some people somewhat random people in our family —a terrible bunch of lies. Like, that I was a bad person (because he deserved more money than he got). The weird thing is, he always said out loud that he hated money, many people can tell you that is all they ever heard from him when money came up as a topic.
This is the kind of vicious and awful lie that is all the way precisely the opposite of the truth which is that he's become very wealthy from Speakeasy and Ookla and your Dad and Mom's work... and his own there.